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“How’s the wedding planning going?”
That’s what everyone wants to know. I’m engaged, the wedding is six months out, so… how’s it
going? Do you have your dress? What’s the color scheme? Where’s the venue? Are you excited
for your wedding?
Well… OF COURSE I’m excited. I literally can’t wait to put on the white dress I’ve been
dreaming about my whole life (yes, I’ve bought it) and to have my best friends to celebrate with
me all day (they’ll be wearing lilac) and to walk down the aisle (at The Refinery). Our wedding
day will be a whirlwind and a dream. I hope the day is perfect, the flowers are gorgeous, and
everyone enjoys the food and dessert. I hope our guests know how grateful we are for them, and
I hope the day represents us and our love story well. I have been dreaming of my wedding my
entire life.
But that’s not all I’ve dreamt about. I’ve dreamt of the man I’d marry, the children we would
have together, and the life we would build. I’ve dreamt of traveling the world, hosting in our
home, going to our kids’ soccer games, and watching them get married. So, while I’m counting
down the days till May 16, I’m most excited for May 17. To wake up, next to my husband, and
know that we will spend the rest of our days together. The wedding isn’t the end goal, but simply
an avenue of getting there. The marriage is what will last a lifetime. The white dress will be put
away, the flowers will wither, the venue will be decorated for the next wedding, and the color
scheme will merely be captured in images, frozen in time. However, our vows to one another
won’t fade. Our marriage will literally last a lifetime.
That’s what I’m most excited for. The hardest days of my life and the greatest joys I will ever
experience will be spent with him by my side, and I couldn’t ask for anything more. In these next
few months, I’d rather spend my time preparing to be a wife and having conversations that will
prepare us for marriage than I would picking out linens or going to cake tastings. Wedding
planning is fun (and stressful, at times), but I imagine marriage will be better, harder, and so
much more worth investing in.
So, how’s the wedding planning going?
It’s good. It’s fun. It can be stressful. Thanks for asking :) But one way or another, at the end of
the day on May 16, we will be married. And, to me, that’s what matters most.
Camryn McPherson is a McConnell Scholar in the class of 2025. She is studying psychology and political science.